What are the signs my husband is transgender or a transvestite?

by Transcend Everything on June 1, 2015

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Sexual signs…

1) An excessive sexual interest in female clothing – especially super feminine items like lingerie and items made of fabrics usually reserved for females: satin etc.

2) An elevated interest in pegging or other sexual activities where he is submissive. A tendency to lie on his back and open his legs like a woman awaiting penetration.

3) An interest in sexual fantasies where both of you are somehow involved with another man.

4) In private he will favor porn based on the above but may also use porn which explicitly centers on sissification, feminization and/or transvestism.

5) A strong desire to have chest/nipples and anus played with.

(Please note that all these sexual behaviors are features of other, unrelated sexual profiles and even if he ticked all of these boxes it would not necessarily mean he was transgender).

Behavioral signs…

1) A high degree of empathy for women and stated belief that they are the superior sex.

2) An unusual degree of interest in female fashion/makeup/lifestyle.

3) A preference for female company.

4) Unusual care and attention to personal grooming.

(Please note that all these behaviors are features of other, unrelated personality profiles and even if he ticked all of these boxes it would not necessarily mean he was transgender).

The nitty gritty

IMPORTANT: first of all, as someone outside the transgender community, you probably don’t have your terminology clear. Although there is a crossover between the two it is quite different to ask “what are the signs my husband is transgender?’ than ‘What are the signs my husband is a transvestite?’ So…let me just clarify some sexological and psychological distinctions.

Is my husband a transvestite?

There really isn’t such a thing as a transvestite…it’s an old fashioned term that misunderstands what’s truly motivating the crossdresser.

A man who is wearing female clothing for sexual pleasure is a crossdreamer (also known in pornographic culture as a ‘sissy’ or ‘autogynephiliac’). The definition of a crossdreamer is a man who gets turned on at the idea of being a woman. In other words…he doesn’t have a fetish for women’s clothing per se but a fetish for being a woman. The clothes help him to carry out his fantasy. (The ironic things is (if you’re a wife reading this) he may not even know this because very few people know about crossdreaming. Many men think they are indeed ‘transvestites’. Therefore, you now know more than him about his sexuality.)

However, it is extremely controversial to say that he has a ‘fetish’ for being a woman. Some sexologists and gender theorists believe that this form of sexuality is a milder form of transgender condition which – though mostly sexual – does indicate some deeper strain of femininity.

The most important thing you need to know, though, is that men who are into crossdreaming and crossdressing are almost always heterosexual (despite some of their fruitier fantasies) and never need to live as women the way a true transgender woman would have to. They can be just as ‘manly’ as any other man.

However, if you choose to allow him some opportunity to express this sexual behaviour, make sure that you strike a deal where a certain amount of times he has to give you the sex you want. If you allow a sexual crossdresser to fulfill their fantasies they will start to want it all the time. Remind them that sometimes you need a good old fashioned man (if that’s what you want.)

Is my husband transgender?

This is a different kettle of fish entirely because if your husband is transgender it means he believes he is a woman and he will therefore experience a desperate and compelling need to live as a woman. He may be able to resist this need, but it will take considerable effort and a certain degree of sacrifice.

Also, trying to read the signs of a transgender husband is difficult because there’s a complication: many married men who come out as transgender have a lifelong history of the type of erotic crossdressing mentioned before.

Therefore, if you discover, for example, that your husband is wearing your clothes…there are three possible explanations.

1. He’s a crossdreamer and it is a purely sexual experience.
2. He’s a transgender crossdreamer and it is a sexual experience…but he’s also transgender.
3. He’s transgender and is just chilling out in your clothes, expressing his fem nature.

This means, therefore, that you need to stop looking for signs he’s transgender or transvestite or trans curious and straight out ask him the following question in a loving and understanding tone…

“Darling, I’ve been doing some research online because I’ve been suspecting for some time that you are wearing my clothes / watching sissy porn etc and I need to know if this is just a sexual thing or if you’re transgender?

That is the only way you will know for sure what’s going on.

(p.s. If it turns out that he does have transgender leanings but – for your sake – he wants to continue living as a man, then I recommend he reads the following books. They are about living with intense transgender feelings while living as a happy, healthy male.)

E-mail me for advice.: felixconrad45@gmail.com

EDITORIAL NOTE: Here we republish an article by the notorious transphobe, spurned_spouse666. We believe it contains important information on internet privacy relevant to all users.

spurned_spouse666 - "Has axe - will grind!"

spurned_spouse666 – “Has axe – will grind!”

Well, girls (and I mean real girls) now that a former gold medal decathlon winner has come out as transgender… all my warnings about the clear and present transgender menace are coming to pass.

I mean, really… who’s next? Bruce Willis, Vin diesel, Trump? I guess all the things about plastic packaging are true… or maybe it’s the water supply… whatever it is it seems that our nation’s men are slowly being turned into a legion of pansies. However, while no woman is safe from the emergence of a transkenstein in the midsts of their family… one thing we can guard against is the surprise attack when your previous bastion of manliness suddenly announces out of the blue he’s changing his name from Ken to Portia.

You see, there’s this little thing called the internet… and if your husband is transgender or transvestite or whatever… his internet history will reveal it all. Now, of course, it’s at this point that you’ll say this is a terrible way to find out if he’s a tranny because… he “deletes his history…” Sugar, deleting the history doesn’t do nothing; if you’re smart enough… or maybe just twisted enough…you can get round history-delete easily. They don’t call me spurned_spouse666 for nothing!

Basically (and not a lot of people know this) every single website visited from your residence is logged in your router. And that’s why it’s so dangerous for those secret transgender husbands: they don’t know about router logs so they go online ferreting around their weird transvestite and transsexual websites thinking no one will ever know.

The first thing you need is the password for the router. Because so few people ever enter their router virtually no one knows it… but if you find the box the relevant information will be in the manual or on a special piece of paper. If it’s not… don’t worry… all you need to do is call your internet service provider and they’ll happily tell you the password (especially if you can speak to a sister and you tell her you want to find out if your husband or boyfriend is a secret transsexual.)

You enter your router via your computer… (it has it’s own IP address (this information is also in the manual)). Once you’re in you simply have to look at ‘logs’. Now, unfortunately, girls… what you won’t see is a great long list of websites… instead… you’ll see a long list of IP addresses which correspond to a great long list of websites. But don’t be disheartened… there are dozens of free websites and apps which will convert the list into good old fashioned URLs.

Trust me, if your husband is a gender bender… it’ll be pretty damn obvious… it won’t just be that you’ll see multiple entries for transvestite etc… you’ll see all sorts of related porn and crossdressing material.

Now, listen… BECAUSE THIS IS IMPORTANT. UNFORTUNATELY… THERE EXISTS THE OPTION TO DELETE THE LOGS… so, now this method of history listing has been published online, your tranny of a husband might try to cover his dirty tracks. So get on the case, girl!

Editor’s note: we do not encourage this method!

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Blake August 6, 2016 at 2:09 am

You realise that not every transgender person watches porn related to that, right? You do realise that most transgender people also don’t want to be transgender, and that coming to the realization that you can’t just wake up one day and have your nightmare be over? I don’t want to die being remembered as someone I’m not, but I’d be content with dying to be remembered for who I am. You can go and tear families apart by having people’s wives find out on their own and never realise that what you’re doing is wrong, but I’m not going to read your article and not say how offensive it is. Just chill out and stop being phobic. Also why is it that you tell people that transgender people are wrong when your name is followed by 666? You do realise that people would subjugate you for a no good worshiper of satan, right?


Transcend Everything August 6, 2016 at 3:18 am

Dude… the article is tongue in cheek.


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