Although people never really talk about it or consciously recognize it…we all have a social bank account wit a balance which tells us how much social capital we have as an individual. This balance of social capital is a measure of how much people like, trust and respect you.
There are many ways to increase your social capital but one of the most important is honour. Honour, simply defined, is the ability to subordinate your own desires and needs to that of the community. For example, you promised your friend you would take them to Barcelona but that night you’re tired and don’t want to go. However…you go because you promised to go and know it’s important for your friend.
1. Doing what you promised.2. Agreeing to disagree…not slamming doors / phones down and sulking.3. Doing things yourself rather than depending on others.4. Giving and accepting apologies.
A cynic might immediately inject the argument…“well who cares what he wants…just get what you want.” This argument is in fact a linguistic manifestation of universal biological dilemas of altruism versus selfishism in which animals help each other at no obvious benefit to themselves. However, although an individual gains in the short term by not helping someone biologists have proven that in the long term and in terms of the species as a whole there is a net gain by individuals practicing altruism. This is especially true in social animals like humans. Quite simply…we need eachother on all sorts of economic, emotional and logistical levels…and although you may gain in the short term by being dishonourable (or onr of the lucky ones to get away with it)