Should I transition? An introduction to the test.

by Electra L on September 9, 2012

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Introduction 

Unified transgender theory rejects all questioning of whether you should transition or not. For us, there is no debate: if you didn’t want to transition then you wouldn’t be transgender, so… of course you should transition…

…In principle.

Unfortunately, there are three problems.

  1. ‘Transition’ at this current point in medical science does not offer the results which some  transgender people need. The consequence of this imperfect treatment is that for some it doesn’t work. The definition of it doesn’t work is that you end up unhappier than when you were presenting as male.
  2. Also, the fact is… you were socialised as a male… and though you’re trapped in the wrong body, you might have some Stockholm syndrome going on. It’s not enough to have the burning passion inside; male socialisation may mean that although it’s far from a perfect life, you are happier, long term, presenting as male.
  3. Man is not an island. You have a family and a spouse/boy or girlfriend/partner. If your transition permanently upsets these relationships then you might want to think again.

As you can see from the above, the question of transitioning or not is a series of practical, logistical questions as to whether you can overcome the complications of contemporary transition, and be happy.

This emphasis on the practical is important, because traditionally, a lot of transition evaluation has been based on a mysterious female essence. The unspoken theory is that there’s some kind of female-ometer inside and if your readings are high enough you should transition. We say… forget all the soul searching about whether you were supposed to transition or not. Of course, you were. However, you were meant for total transition, and given that total transition is not available, you have to know if what’s on offer will definitely make you happier than you are now.

The following exercise examines the practicalities of transition in detail therefore, and how they might affect your life. It is aimed at male to female transgender people and offers no definitive answers. It is simply a tool to help you see the issues involved.

Some people have commented that the test is too negative ie. it focuses too much on why you shouldn’t transition. However,  this test was created on the basis that all transgender people should, in an ideal world, transition: by definition, if you are transgender… you will be happier living outwardly in your authentic gender. Therefore, as the benefits of transition are a given… the only thing you need to know about are those factors in the un-ideal world which interfere with a happy transition.

Finally, this is intended as a community project. We actively seek input to improve this test so please leave your comments whenever you feel strongly about something. Every week the test will be modified according to your feedback. We recognise it is grossly imperfect… help us improve it.

Should I transition? – Family

Should I transition?

…you should.

…In the ideal world.

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April Lee October 6, 2015 at 3:07 pm

I don’t think the above arguments against transition had a lot of validity in my case, but I also think I might be the extreme exception. Of those 3 above, probably the last one has been the most applicable, but even that one hasn’t stopped me. First of all, it helps to have the right view of womanhood. If you see women as strong, powerful, independent, that can also exude sexuality at the same time, then manhood will offer fewer perks. It also helps to be incredibly shallow and to have a fair amount of audacity. If you are utterly unconcerned about what people think, it becomes much easier. In my case, I even thrive a little on the rebellious aspects of it. That all helps.

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